Advice: Meaning Of "Swim In Self Pity" & Crawling Before Walking

Photo Credit: https://www.quotemaster.org/Self-Pity Hello Everyone! How is the weather on your side of the globe today my friend? We are dealing with increased heat and humidity here in New York City. I left my step tracker at home on the charger so I'm twisted up about it. I'm not going to let it ruin my day. It will jam up my progress for the week. Your pal Leslie is sharing with you her first children's book "Not All Girls Play With Dolls" that is available in e-book, paperback, and hardcover on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes. The same reminder goes for my first adult book entitled, "Construction Tales: Volume I: A Woman's Journey To Become An Electrician". Your favorite construction blogger pal is here yet again sharing more custom crafted Quora advice for your absorption. This first piece of advice is on the topic of the meaning behind the phrase, "don't swim in your self-pity". I'm envisioning someone practically drowning in a red dyed pool whenever I think about this phrase. The person is absolutely drowning in the pool of despair and sadness. I love to swim. However, this is a pool that I try feverishly to avoid. It benefits no one to stay in despair. The sooner you process the emotions, the sooner you can re-emerge as a healed person. You need to breathe and get ready for the next problem that comes up anyway. Playing the victim role is a rather unattractive quality to possess. People may say they feel sorry for you. However, behind the scenes, they are going to make a point to dodge you in the future. Work through those emotions in any healthy way that you can. Push through the feelings and develop a plan to get out of that funk. I totally get being in a funk and having the deck stacked against ya. For many years, as a young widow, I felt like I had the world on my shoulders. I worked a tremendous amount in order to survive. My work also helped to keep my mind busy. I also wrote out (50) goals to look at on the horizon and keep me going. I would write out new goals after crossing out the goals that were smashed. I had this goal list rotation going on for many years. I have about (7) goals currently written in my phone. I'm supposed to look at them daily but I've been slacking. Always keep your eye on the prize! For the second round of advice, the topic is on the meaning behind the phrase, "X walked so Y could run". I associate this phrase with ground breaking people. The very first trailblazing person to attempt a feat. Once they have established themselves, the people who follow suit have a much easier time. I can't think of another example for this phrase. Can you think of a different scenario? Let's dive right into the reading material, via checking out both the question and advice down below. Drop your feedback on my wacky selection of topics by leaving your feedback in the comment section down below. Check out the question(s) and my response(s) down below: POSED QUESTION #1: "What does "don't swim in your self-pity" mean? Can I feel sad?" -By Johnny Alex MY RESPONSE #1: "Well, let’s look at the definition of self-pity. According to an internet dictionary, self-pity is an excessive, self-absorbed unhappiness over one's own troubles. What’s considered as excessive anyway? Carrying on with such dramatic sadness? I know of some people who constantly speak about their sorrow and/or bad luck. This person wonders why people avoid them. Whenever you are out socializing, you have to mention your troubles to your friends. This is not good at all. We ALL have challenges in life. Our challenges do not need to be constantly on the front page. Like how most people feel, I really don’t want to be your evening impromptu therapist when we are supposed to be out having a great time drinking some beers. I’m sure most people feel the same way. Yes, you can be sad. When a person says that you are swimming in self-pity, it means that you are in a constant state of dismay. Seeing someone swim in self-pity is depressing and unappealing. What is the benefit of staying in the deep end of sadness?? Swimming in self-pity is not good for the person doing it either. Once you linger in that mindset for a long period of time, it is hard to pull yourself out of it. Give yourself time to process the problem and then work on the solution to get yourself out of the pits of despair. No matter what you are going through, someone always has it way worse than you do. A positive mindset goes a long way towards working yourself out of bad situations. As I said before, there is zero benefit to swimming in self-pity. There is a solution for every problem. Problems do give hardship but you don’t have to stay in the hardship forever. Work to get out of that mindset as soon as possible. Surround yourself with positive people. Their good energy is great to submerse yourself in. If you start the negative self talk, turn it around to thinking positive. Write out those goals, smash them, cross them out, and then write some more. Goals are a good way to keep your eye on the prize and feel good about your life progress. Once you get some age to your life path, you realize that everything works out. I wish you much luck and success on your life path! #ConstructionTales #VerballyDisastrous #NotAllGirlsPlayWithDolls" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/What-does-dont-swim-in-your-self-pity-mean-Can-I-feel-sad/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1 POSED QUESTION #2: "What does "X walked so Y could run" mean?" -By Emirey Jackson MY RESPONSE #2: "My interpretation of that phrase is that “X” is the pioneer in the scenario. The “Y” character followed “X’s” lead. Therefore, because “X” paved the way, “Y” is able to move through at a much faster pace. This is why “Y” is running. Would “Y” have been able to even walk if “X” had not lead the way?? I wish you much luck on your life path. Cheers! #ConstructionTales #VerballyDisastrous #NotAllGirlsPlayWithDolls" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/What-does-X-walked-so-Y-could-run-mean/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3 Hopefully you appreciated my al a carte selection of Quora advice posts today? Let me know your position today's advice. Share your feedback on my latest round of advice down in the comment section down below. I'm sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. My latest short story #11 is entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, let me know your thoughts? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. We need to get through our Wednesday routine as smoothly as physically possible. Have yourself a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day! Link To Construction Tales: Volume I: A Woman's Journey To Become An Electrician (Paperback & Kindle) On Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Construction-Tales-Womans-Journey-Electrician/dp/1467960160 Link To Construction Tales: A Young Person's Guide To Accomplish Anything In Life (Paperback & Kindle) On Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Construction-Tales-Persons-Accomplish-Anything/dp/1497593115 U.S.A.: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B07P5PNCS7/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_us United Kingdom: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B07P5PP7RW/?source_code=AUKFrDlWS02231890H6-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_uk France, Belgium, Switzerland: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.fr/pd/B07P7RYP4G/?source_code=FRAORWS022318903B-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_fr Germany, Austria, Switzerland: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.de/pd/B07P8W3MVY/?source_code=EKAORWS0223189009-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_de VERBALLY DISASTROUS PODCAST EPISODE LINKS: Here is the link to the Verbally Disastrous Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2dFYgX4dUiHaMfJ4gigLY0?si=KcR-D8RyRnKGk1wuPOqa1Q&dl_branch=1 Verbally Disastrous! Season #1, Episode #43: Part A- Tramping In Cali! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6XzVL9ybKHA Verbally Disastrous! Season #1, Episode #44: Part B- Tramping In Cali! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/TFDLB5talUo Verbally Disastrous! Season #1, Episode #45: Part C- Tramping In Cali! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nYRVJNya0lU Verbally Disastrous! Season #2, Episode #46:Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice On YouTube: https://youtu.be/IcQ4-uGankA Verbally Disastrous Podcast! S#2, Ep. #47: Part A- Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qWhf4lGmcXo Verbally Disastrous Podcast! S#2, Ep. #48: Part B- Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wO8nXSRw7sU Verbally Disastrous Podcast- S#2, Episode #49: Just Released Not All Girls Play With Dolls!! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/go1FdOI5eYY Verbally Disastrous Podcast- S#2, Episode #50: My First 7 Weeks As A Site Safety Manager on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_DKA-q72dNw I recently shared my latest short story that has been loaded up to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library on Amazon. This is short story #11 entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. I share the various challenges I faced and lessons learned along the way. The previous short story is entitled: #10: "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". I decided to write about some life lessons such as guarding your personal information, managing nasty rumors, combating sexual harassment, gender discrimination, and racism. Overall, the construction culture has improved dramatically over the past 25-years. Developing both a thick skin and a sharp tongue are key tools needed to survive various jobsite antics. I hope you learn something from this short story. There are more to come. These short stories are now also available as Verbally Disastrous podcast episodes. Construction Tales- Told By A Woman: (11) Kindle Vella Short Stories On Amazon!! https://www.amazon.com/kindle-vella/product/B096N8NSGM The Verbally Disastrous Store On Tee-Spring:

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