Construction Tales: Volume I: A Woman's Journey to Become an Electrician

Friday, May 13, 2022

Advice: Can You Hit The Broad Side Of A Barn With A Beach Ball?

Photo Credit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t-EL6zXYSLc Hello Everyone! It is actually a decent Friday here in New York City. I'm happy for sweater to t-shirt weather. I have officially stopped wearing my jacket to work. My goal is to no longer wear the jacket until October. How's the day going for you on your side of the globe today? I've had another busy this week both at work and after work. I'm reminding you yet again that my first children's book "Not All Girls Play With Dolls" is available in e-book, paperback, and hardcover on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes. The same reminder goes for my first adult book entitled, "Construction Tales: Volume I: A Woman's Journey To Become An Electrician". I'm sharing with you another slice of Quora advice. I'm honored to be giving you even more reading material while on the toilet. Your secret is safe with me and the other fellow readers. Let's read this quick and go back to work. :P This Quora advice is on the phrase, “you couldn’t hit the broad side of a barn with a beach ball”. I heard the phrase used by the elders as a kid growing up in Oregon. Out in Oregon, hunting is a major thing that the average person does. Many people do it for survival purposes. Growing up, I ate deer meat, fish, crab, salmon, and other things we caught in the wild. Therefore, being a good aim is vital for many families in order to survive in many parts of the world. Many people start their kids out with learning about firearms very young as well. I shot my first firearm at 7-years-old. I hunted my first deer by the time I was 12-years-old. As a New York City transplant now for many years, hunting is not something that I hear many folks do. I have ran into a few fellow construction workers who share their "tree stand" stories. My dad would never have allowed me to just sit in a tree and wait for the deer to show up. I had to draw them out, via doing sweeps up and down the side of the mountain. We would camp in the middle of nowhere and hunt for an entire week. I honestly don't recall a fellow New Yorker ever saying that phrase to me. That doesn't mean that people do not know the phrase here in New York. It's quite possibly an old time saying that could be dying out. We have new vocabulary that takes over our society all of the time. Some of it can be thrown straight in the trash. My grandparents were kids during the Depression so they saw the world differently. My grandmother washed aluminum foil and plastic bags. My grandmother spoke about living in a barn or a cabin when she was a young woman in Michigan. I did have a great aunt who owned a dairy farm back in Oregon too. I cannot possibly remember all of there catch phrases. However, I do remember hearing the phrase "were you born in a barn?" when I left the door open as a kid. Are these phrases spoken in your part of the globe? Is it possible that there is another interpretation of the main phrase that is the chosen topic? Let me know your thoughts about this phrase by dropping you comments in the comment section down below. Without giving any more away, go ahead and check out the question and my response down below: POSED QUESTION: "What is the meaning of the saying, “you couldn’t hit the broad side of a barn with a beach ball”?" -By Moohaumed Habib MY RESPONSE: "Haha!! I remember hearing that phrase from my grandma or my dad as a kid- minus the beach ball. The beach ball adds another humorous layer to the phrase. The phrase is used to describe a person with very poor aim. This could be with a fire arm or as simple as trying to throw a basketball or even pitch a baseball. The term is believed to have originated back in the mid-nineteenth century- within the military. It was often repeated in the early twentieth century, when it was applied to untalented baseball pitchers who could not throw the ball over the plate with any consistency. The “broad side” in this expression also suggests the old naval meaning of broadside, that is, a simultaneous discharge of all the guns on one side of a warship. Adding a beach ball to the mix makes it even harder since beach balls are light in nature. They are very hard to control when trying to aim at anything. We would be correct in assuming, depending on the distance, that being accurate with a beach ball is impossible. I sure wish you luck with trying! #ConstructionTales #NotAllGirlsPlayWithDolls #VerballyDisastrous" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-meaning-of-the-saying-you-couldn-t-hit-the-broad-side-of-a-barn-with-a-beach-ball/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1 I thank you for stealing a moment with me, via stopping by my advice post today. Have you ever heard of this phrase ever before? Let me know if you either agree or disagree with my advice? Go ahead and share your different perspective down in the comment section down below. As I have previously shared a few times, I found out that The #VerballyDisastrous Podcast is #58 on the list of a top 100 of career minded & working women podcasts on Feedspot.com. I have the link to this top 100 list up above at the top of this blog post. I'm also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I'm sharing with you some advice posts in between handling my work duties. Now, go and finish the work day and let's get started with our Friday and upcoming weekend. Have yourself a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!

Photo Credit: Call To Action Marketing Logo- John Collazo, CEO Link To Construction Tales: Volume I: A Woman's Journey To Become An Electrician (Paperback & Kindle) On Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Construction-Tales-Womans-Journey-Electrician/dp/1467960160 Link To Construction Tales: A Young Person's Guide To Accomplish Anything In Life (Paperback & Kindle) On Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Construction-Tales-Persons-Accomplish-Anything/dp/1497593115 U.S.A.: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B07P5PNCS7/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_us United Kingdom: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B07P5PP7RW/?source_code=AUKFrDlWS02231890H6-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_uk France, Belgium, Switzerland: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.fr/pd/B07P7RYP4G/?source_code=FRAORWS022318903B-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_fr Germany, Austria, Switzerland: Use This Link For The Audio Version Of My Book #ConstructionTales On Audible: https://www.audible.de/pd/B07P8W3MVY/?source_code=EKAORWS0223189009-BK-ACX0-144253&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_144253_rh_de VERBALLY DISASTROUS PODCAST EPISODE LINKS: Here is the link to the Verbally Disastrous Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2dFYgX4dUiHaMfJ4gigLY0?si=KcR-D8RyRnKGk1wuPOqa1Q&dl_branch=1 Verbally Disastrous! Season #1, Episode #43: Part A- Tramping In Cali! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6XzVL9ybKHA Verbally Disastrous! Season #1, Episode #44: Part B- Tramping In Cali! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/TFDLB5talUo Verbally Disastrous! Season #1, Episode #45: Part C- Tramping In Cali! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nYRVJNya0lU Verbally Disastrous! Season #2, Episode #46:Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice On YouTube: https://youtu.be/IcQ4-uGankA Verbally Disastrous Podcast! S#2, Ep. #47: Part A- Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools on YouTube: https://youtu.be/qWhf4lGmcXo Verbally Disastrous Podcast! S#2, Ep. #48: Part B- Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools on YouTube: https://youtu.be/wO8nXSRw7sU Verbally Disastrous Podcast- S#2, Episode #49: Just Released Not All Girls Play With Dolls!! on YouTube: https://youtu.be/go1FdOI5eYY Verbally Disastrous Podcast- S#2, Episode #50: My First 7 Weeks As A Site Safety Manager on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_DKA-q72dNw I recently shared my latest short story that has been loaded up to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library on Amazon. This is short story #11 entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. I share the various challenges I faced and lessons learned along the way. The previous short story is entitled: #10: "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". I decided to write about some life lessons such as guarding your personal information, managing nasty rumors, combating sexual harassment, gender discrimination, and racism. Overall, the construction culture has improved dramatically over the past 25-years. Developing both a thick skin and a sharp tongue are key tools needed to survive various jobsite antics. I hope you learn something from this short story. There are more to come. These short stories are now also available as Verbally Disastrous podcast episodes. Construction Tales- Told By A Woman: (11) Kindle Vella Short Stories On Amazon!! https://www.amazon.com/kindle-vella/product/B096N8NSGM The Verbally Disastrous Store On Tee-Spring:

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Friday, May 6, 2022

Advice: Meaning Behind A Person With No Friends?

Photo Credit: https://www.businessbackpacker.com/introvert-or-extrovert-why-this-matters-for-your-business/ Hello Everyone! It's still a somewhat rainy Friday here in New York City. How's the day going on your side of the globe today? I have been rather busy this week at work but I'm giving you not one but two blog posts today! I'm reminding you yet again that my first children's book "Not All Girls Play With Dolls" is available in e-book, paperback, and hardcover on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes. The same reminder goes for my first adult book entitled, "Construction Tales: Volume I: A Woman's Journey To Become An Electrician". I opted to share with you even more Quora advice. You are getting a double slice of advice today. I know you're excited for more reading material. :P I'm honored to be sharing more reading material with you while on your break. This Quora advice is on the meaning of a person who has no friends. I'm an introvert by nature and absolutely love solitude. I also was that teenager that had one friend in middle school and one friend in high school. I moved away my senior year so flew solo my last year of high school. As an adult, my inner circle is super small. Even as a kid, I didn't want to open up to people. I didn't want them to know how poor or strict my household was that I grew up in. My dad didn't believe that I needed friends since they could serve as a gateway for bad behavior. I wasn't allowed to use the phone as a teenager either. These various childhood factors made me into a tough introvert. I used my school work as a distraction for how I perceived my home life in my teen years. I had to chop a cord of wood and had an intense cleaning schedule after school after I finished my homework. You know it's not normal when you find a "break" by going to military boot camp. Because of my background, I find a person with no friends to be a rather guarded person. I certainly wouldn't consider them to be a loser in life. I see friendship as requiring some level of vulnerability in order to develop that friendship. Over time, you bond over similar interests and have a low level of intimacy. The social skills required to connect with others can be challenging and not everyone possesses them. Our child years are where we develop these skills. If we don't have great examples growing up, social skills don't automatically translate into adulthood. You also have to have the mindset to endure the negative aspects of a large social circle. No matter how you present yourself, there will always be a person who is jealous and/or has an opinion on your life. You can successfully dodge that style of drama by limiting your social circle. I understand that, for the social butterfly, not having friends can impact a person's life. I find it fascinating that a person's social calendar can deeply impact their mental health. I never want to see anyone have poor mental health because of external factors. We are all guilty of this any time we allow a disagreement with a loved one to impact our day. Well, what is your interpretation of a person who doesn't have any friends? Let me know your thoughts, whether it is either side of the coin, by dropping it down in the comment section down below. Without giving too much away, go ahead and check out the question and my response down below: POSED QUESTION: "What does it mean to others if someone doesn't have any friends?" -By Rachel M MY RESPONSE: "I’m sure that answer lies if you are either an introvert or extrovert and how you see life through your lens. A social butterfly must have a social circle. Their mental health hinges on the status of their social calendar. I know the recent global pandemic deeply impacted the extroverts of society. Meanwhile, an introvert doesn’t mind the quiet time at all. As an introvert, you won’t have a tremendous amount of friends. That feature is not a comfortable thing for an introvert. You may not even want to be involved with a big group of people. Dealing with people is like nails on a chalkboard for an introvert. Being friends with people can bring on gossip, drama, unforeseen headaches, jealousy, trust issues, etc. I fall into the introvert category and have a very small social circle. I don’t see anything wrong with a person who doesn’t have a big social circle. However, it may be a red flag if the person has ZERO friends and writes angry manifestos on social media. Then again, everyone who shares their opinions publicly are not serial killers either. Proper social skills are not absorbed by all humans either. Some people are just socially awkward. Therefore, social gatherings are hard to endure. Just remember that not everyone thinks and/or acts just like you. I wish you luck and much success on your life path! #ConstructionTales #VerballyDisastrous #NotAllGirlsPlayWithDolls" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/What-does-it-mean-to-others-if-someone-doesnt-have-any-friends/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3 I thank you for swinging briefly by my advice post today. What is your interpretation when you hear about a person with no friends? Let me know if you either like or dislike my advice? I thank you in advance for offering a different perspective. I found out that The #VerballyDisastrous Podcast is #58 on the list of a top 100 of career minded & working women podcasts on Feedspot.com. I have the link to this top 100 list up above at the top of this blog post. I'm also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I'm sharing with you some advice posts while juggling my work duties. Try your best to finish up this Friday and get ready for the weekend. Have yourself a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!

Advice: What Are The Cues That Show A Person Wanting To Move On?

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Photo Credit: https://blog.feedspot.com/career_minded_and_working_women_podcasts/ Hello Everyone! I'm trying to stay dry on another rainy Friday here in New York City. I hope you are safe and well on this last day of the work week. Yesterday was a rather warm day that was highly appreciated. How is life on your side of the globe today? Here in the United States, we are observing Mother's Day on Sunday. Do you also celebrate Mother's Day on your side of the globe? I plan on getting my hair done and then go see a movie with my sons since it is raining. We originally were going to BBQ at a park since that is more fun than sitting in a restaurant. I have been very busy this week at work so my blog posts have been limited. I'm reminding you yet again that my first children's book "Not All Girls Play With Dolls" is available in e-book, paperback, and hardcover on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes. I opted to share with you some more Quora advice. You are getting another slice of advice to digest with me today. I'm giving you something to read while on your break. This advice is on the meaning behind this phrase “I understand if you want to move on”. Have you ever heard this phrase uttered before? I've heard samples of these indirect questions in the past. In my opinion, the person is asking the question by placing ownership of the disconnection on the other person. The person is suggesting that the other person wants to move on and offering to release them from the relationship. On the other hand, this person asking may have received enough social cues, over a period of time, through the person's words and/or actions to form an opinion that they don't want to stay in the relationship. Instead of remaining in a near dead relationship, it makes sense to clear the air and ask what's on a person's mind. What's the worst thing that can happen? You ending up breaking off a relationship that was dying anyway. Time is short so we don't have time to waste. I know that having that emotional connection is hard to cut. The fastest way to cut off the relationship is to remove the intimacy. In many relationships, the main soul tie is through sex. I believe that sex is an exchange of energy. That's why, in my opinion, that you need to be careful with whom you have sex with since you don't need to tap into bad energy. I'm aware that many couples remain in semi-dead relationships. They are afraid of opening the discussion into what each side wants. It is the fear of being alone. You have to be quite comfortable with your own skin and take care of yourself. I tend to cut ties with relationships that are more work and cause more pain than joy. I would describe each time where I end the relationship as a wrestling match where I'm in a head lock tapping out-LOL. It is very important to push the eject button when you see that you are doing all of the heavy lifting in the relationship and not being treated correctly. Any form of physical abuse should never be tolerated! God bless anyone who chooses to remain in a bad relationship that makes you cry, question your self worth, or consistently gives you emotional turmoil. Once you ask the question on the relationship, you will know one way or another. Just remember that being single means you answer to no one but yourself. There are many benefits to the single life and some cons. I totally understand people who are financially dependent on their significant other. I was really dependent on my spouse when he died. I felt better once I gained my independence that took time. Nowadays, I can't imagine being forced to stay with someone due to financial reasons. Making your own money can be addicting. I'm not against a man choosing to make my life easier. However, I don't feel comfortable with quitting my job and relying 100% on a man. I don't give anyone who chooses that any grief either. I hope I didn't ramble way off topic. :P Well, what is your interpretation of this phrase? If you have a totally different interpretation of this phrase, by all means, let me know in the comment section down below. Without giving too much away, go ahead and check out the question and my response down below: POSED QUESTION: "What does it mean if someone says “I understand if you want to move on”?" -By Joy Tabram MY RESPONSE: "You may have given social cues that you are no longer interested in a relationship and desire to move on. If you genuinely didn’t give hints that you want to move on, then this is a temperature gauge on our reaction to the comment. They may be observing your responses since you have left them in the dark previously about your intentions. It’s an indirect way to ask you about the status of your mindset. You need to do a quick self analysis as to how your words and/or actions have led to the other person not properly estimating your mindset. I wish you much luck and success with navigating through the perils of relationships. #ConstructionTales #VerballyDisastrous #NotAllGirlsPlayWithDolls" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/What-does-it-mean-if-someone-says-I-understand-if-you-want-to-move-on?show_editor=True I thank you for hanging briefly on my advice post today. What is your interpretation when you hear this phrase? How would you respond. If my advice causes you to think about the matter even for a moment, let me know. Let me know if you either like or dislike my advice? I thank you in advance for offering a different perspective. I found out that The #VerballyDisastrous Podcast is #58 on the list of a top 100 of career minded & working women podcasts on Feedspot.com. I have the link to this top 100 list up above at the top of this blog post. I'm also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I'm sharing with you some advice posts while juggling my work duties. Try your best to finish up this Friday and get ready for the weekend. Have yourself a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!

Monday, May 2, 2022

Advice: Meaning Behind You're Getting Too Old To "Cut The Mustard"?

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Photo Credit: https://blog.feedspot.com/career_minded_and_working_women_podcasts/ Hello Everyone! Try to keep dry during this rainy Monday here in New York City. How is life on your side of the globe today? I hope you had a good weekend. I'm reminding you that my first children's book "Not All Girls Play With Dolls" is available in e-book, paperback, and hardcover on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes. I opted to share with you another piece of Quora advice. You are getting another slice of advice to chew on today. I said to myself, why not offer more reading material for your bathroom runs? You're quite welcome my friend. This advice is on the meaning behind this phrase "you’re getting much too old "to cut the mustard"". How does a phrase like this impact you? Has anyone ever said it to you? I have heard the phrase used but I don't recall anyone directing it my way. A person saying this to an elderly person is rather rude. I can't think of a time where it would be appropriate. It is kind of a degrading thing to say no matter the reasoning. Perhaps a person who has a parent attempting to do a task that could cause them harm and require after care would merit using the phrase. Only the person knows exactly what they are capable of doing. Others can only perceive what another person is capable of doing or not doing. I don't know the purpose of telling another person that they are too old to do stuff. If you have a totally different interpretation of this phrase, by all means, let me know in the comment section down below. Without giving away the entire store, go ahead and check out the question and my response down below: POSED QUESTION: "What is somebody telling you if they say, "you’re getting much too old "to cut the mustard"?" -By Rose Anne Campbell MY RESPONSE: "I think the phrase means that the person has reached an age to where you are able to complete a task. The phrase “cut the mustard” means to “come up to expectations; reach the required standard”. The word mustard itself goes back, via French, to the Latin mustum (English must), which was an altogether different substance. It was the juice squeezed from grapes before it was made into wine. Mustard is so named because the condiment was originally made by making mustards seeds into a paste with must. Cut the mustard appears to be an American original. Evidence for the phrase can be found in a Galveston, Texas newspaper in 1891–92. The author O. Henry—who spent many years in Texas, where he may have picked up the expression—used cut the mustard in his 1907 collection of short stories The Heart of the West. Therefore, the phrase means that a person interprets the other party of being too old to handle a task. The person may not be able to physically tackle a task due to physical limitations that can come from the aging process. The person calling it may be indeed accurate or just has this baseless perception. If it is a skewed perception, don’t allow it to stop ya. Go ahead and continue to cut the mustard for as long as you possibly can. Ideally, only you know what you can and cannot do with your body. I think it does sound like a rude yet honest phrase to say to someone. I wish you much luck and success on your journey. #ConstructionTales #NotAllGirlsPlayWithDolls #VerballyDisastrous" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/What-is-somebody-telling-you-if-they-say-you-re-getting-much-too-old-to-cut-the-mustard/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3?prompt_topic_bio=1 I appreciate you swinging by my advice post to take a brief coffee break. Does this phrase trigger you at all? If my advice makes you laugh or at least think about the matter, let me know. Let me know if you either like or dislike my advice? I thank you in advance for offering a different perspective. I found out that The #VerballyDisastrous Podcast is #58 on the list of a top 100 of career minded & working women podcasts on Feedspot.com. I have the link to this top 100 list up above at the top of this blog post. I'm also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I'm sharing with you some advice posts while juggling my work duties. Try your best to get through this Monday the best way that you can. We have to get through another work week together. Have yourself a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!

Advice: Meaning Of "I Had A Life Before You"?

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Photo Credit: https://blog.feedspot.com/career_minded_and_working_women_podcasts/ Hello Everyone! Try to stay dry during this rainy Monday here in New York City. How is life on your side of the globe today? I hope you had a good weekend. I attended my son's varsity football ring ceremony this weekend. Each of the kids got a personalized class ring that are large and heavy. The ring case has a light that turns on when you open the ring box. I'm happy for him that he got in on this moment with his team. He is now lifting weights in the gym during the week and getting ready for the next football season. They have a scrimmage coming up in May. He has football camp in June. As a senior, he will get more playing time so he has to put the work in to get ready. At the very least, he will get conditioned to be in great shape. I'm reminding you that my first children's book "Not All Girls Play With Dolls" is available in e-book, paperback, and hardcover on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes. I need to finish the audio version of the book. I opted to share with you another piece of Quora advice. This advice is on the meaning behind this phrase "I had a life before you". I did try to think of different ways to decipher this phrase. The phrase was said during a passive disagreement. Therefore, we have two sides trying to dance around the actual subject matter. Some may think that this is a rude thing to say regardless of the context. Meanwhile, others may say that the person is just reminding the other person of those details. No matter the relationship, there is always one side that takes advantage of the other side. Over time, the person who does the majority of the heavy lifting will get tired of the power dynamics. Some people go for many years under an imbalance of conditions without changing circumstances. Others refuse to endure any situation that is unpleasant or causes that person to do all of the work. What side of the fence are you on this matter? If you have a totally different interpretation of this phrase, by all means, let me know in the comment section down below. Without giving away the entire store, go ahead and check out the question and my response down below: POSED QUESTION: "During a passive disagreement, what does he mean when he says “I had a life before you”?" -By Aries Journagin MY RESPONSE: "Well, I interpret a passive disagreement as when two parties are not finding a common ground yet are not being direct with their positions. I understand that the goal is to not hurt the feelings of either party. Therefore, being passive is a tactic in order to remove the sting and dance around the subject matter delicately. I find the choice of not directly tackling the issue(s) to be annoying. In an ideal world, people should just say how they feel without going up to a super savage level. I do understand that words cut and cannot be removed once it is placed in the center of a conversation. To sprinkle on top of everything, people are becoming more and more sensitive nowadays. Therefore, I have a general understanding about the desire to tip-toe around an issue. However, tip toeing around an issue tends to lead down a spiraling road of frustrations until there is either an explosive argument or a meeting of the minds. Remember that people are often not very good at taking passive hints. Indirect communication can instead lead to misunderstandings in either the long or short term. In lieu of direct communication, parties are compelled to beat around the bush that is the root issue with indirect thoughts. The choice to use these forms of communication methods can either be one or both parties. Passive tactics involve: sulking behavior, issuing backhanded compliments or sarcasm, total communication withdrawal, and/or indirectly making negative comments on the issue. Perhaps the person is hoping that you will get the hint of what they are trying to say? Does it really make you the “bad guy” if you go ahead and say what is exactly on your mind? Perhaps the person knows that they are potentially one sentence away from going absolutely savage on the other party if they drop their guard for even a moment. It would make sense to be cautious in that instance if keeping yourself from achieving some sort of a “Viking status” is not a strength of yours. Consider that this could be their way of demonstrating tact considering what they want to say is far more hurtful. Saying “I had a life before you” is a prime example of an indirect/nice way of letting the other party know that they shouldn’t lean so heavily on them. The person may want acknowledgement for their efforts. The person could feel like they are now “whipped” and no longer have an independent life since they are now dedicated to your needs and wants and not so much their own. They used to have a life prior to you making so many demands on them nowadays. It could be an indirect way of expressing displeasure over the other party’s smothering nature and they’re hoping that you take the hint. They may even wonder how you managed to conduct yourself prior to crossing paths with them? The person may miss or want some degree of independence back. While being a parental capacity, this phrase could be said to either a young child (which is just nasty & cruel) or an adult child who still chooses to still depend on the parent as opposed to creating their own way. I would find it humorous if a parent said that to a +30-year-old “child” since it would be totally laced with equal parts frustration and sarcasm. Another way to consider the phrase is in the vein of an intimate relationship. Prior to linking up romantically, they each had a sexual history prior to meeting the current person. If said to mean in that manner, it’s the cue to back off of them (yes, I'm missing context) and loosen up the reins of jealousy. The reins you are using to hold the person are the very same ones that will suffocate them in the short or long term. Oftentimes, the phrase is said either out of sheer frustration or simple arrogance if there is no build up to the phrase being uttered. It’s a phrase that could be said in an effort to let their partner know indirectly that life was simpler prior to meeting them. They could be weighing the pros vs cons of going back to life before knowing the other party. If your partner feels an imbalance in efforts, then you need to figure out how to lighten their load in other arenas. If you don’t make the change, they may drop their efforts and back out of the situation if there is no balance in the relationship. Another way to view this phrase could be in reference to work. The person saying the phrase may feel like their co-workers rely on them way too much. Their life was much easier prior to accepting that job. Only the person saying the phrase knows where they are mentally with the job and the work load. On the other hand, some people are not even overworked at all. They may just have the personality where they have to moan and complain about everything. No matter the capacity of the relationship where this phrase is expressed, may you find balance and harmony that causes the relationship to last as long as possible. Much luck and success!! #ConstructionTales #VerballyDisastrous" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/During-a-passive-disagreement-what-does-he-mean-when-he-says-I-had-a-life-before-you/answer/Leslie-Jasper-3 Thanks so much for passing by my advice post and making a momentary pit stop. Does this phrase trigger you at all? If you are highly amused by my advice, let me know. As I always ask, let me know if you either like or dislike my advice? Don't forget to explain exactly as to your position so that I may gain an understanding. I appreciate different perspectives on these topics. I found out that The #VerballyDisastrous Podcast is #58 on the list of a top 100 of career minded & working women podcasts on Feedspot.com. I have the link to this top 100 list up above at the top of this blog post. I'm also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I'm sharing with you some advice posts while juggling my work duties. Try your best to get through this Monday the best way that you can. We have to get through another work week together. Have yourself a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!

Thursday, April 28, 2022

Advice: Why Are People Triggered By Hearing "No Offense"?

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Photo Credit: https://blog.feedspot.com/career_minded_and_working_women_podcasts/ Hello Everyone! May this windy a$$ Thursday be the only distraction to an otherwise smooth, problem-free day today. How is your schedule going for you on your side of the globe today? Your favorite New York construction worker chick has brewed up another Quora question and response for your reading pleasure today. For this blog post, I'm sharing this Quora question about why people get triggered by hearing the phrase "no offense" after receiving a dose of harsh truth. I found this to be a rather interesting question so I responded and opted to share with you. Over the years, I've learned that sharing some unsolicited harsh truth can be such a tight rope to walk. If you read my posts, you have figured out by now that I love people who don't beat around the bush and just say what is on their minds. Of course I'd like to see them exercise tact with their delivery. There is a time and a place for everything and that needs to be analyzed beforehand. I'm aware that there is a fine line of revealing the truth while not looking like a bully for sharing such harsh details. As a young woman, I did believe that the only thing that was acceptable was the truth. How dare people walk through life living a lie or subjecting others to a pile of lies!??! As a kid, it was always pushed that it is super important to always tell nothing but the truth. However, when you get older, all of a sudden you can be considered a "monster" or a "bully" for casting light on a harsh truth that was previously hidden in the dark. Who the hell are you to shatter a person's fake reality?? As an older woman, I've learned that not all truths need to be revealed or delivered. What's the point!??! You have to ask yourself as to why is the truth being withheld or hidden to begin with? What good actually comes from delivering the harsh truth?? Will this delivery prompt any form of change? Will it save a life!? Will the harsh truth prevent a person from making a critical choice with limited data that was previously hidden? Is the harsh truth messenger concerned about the other party not being aware of their own character flaws? Will the truth set them free?? Is the messenger hoping to wake up the person with the harsh truth? Even the most dense people who walk the Earth are aware of their flaws and weaknesses deep down. Sometimes the truth is really hard to swallow and very embarrassing if they're revealed. Some people feel very bad about themselves when the truth is exposed. When the messenger adds "no offense" after the fact, it is interpreted as an extra slap to the face. I totally understand why a person gets triggered by the phrase. Why does the term "no offense" even need to be said after the harsh truth reveal anyway? Is the messenger hoping to soften the blow or insulate themselves with that phrase? How is it even possible to think that you are delivering some harsh truth and the person receiving won't take it personal? You are trying to open the lid on some of the most ugly and unflattering character defects on that person. If you can't handle the smoke, as the messenger, that comes as the aftermath after a truth blast, then perhaps you should fall back from giving people a dose of the truth. If blasting a person with a truth bomb makes YOU uncomfortable, then you need to fall back on your delivery. Let's go rattle a person's cage with some ugly truth and hope they don't take it personal. Now that's some foolery and you know it!! If you can't handle the heat, stay out of the damn kitchen. It takes tremendous courage and mental strength to go on a truth crusade on your white horse and manage the emotional aftermath. A person sounds super soft to me when they add "no offense" after delivering that truth blow. You really need to fully think out the entire process to see if it is even worth getting involved in something that has zero impact on your own life. I realize people are bored with life and need some extra drama to spice up their otherwise boring work week. Many people are very nosey with matters that do not impact them whatsoever (yup, myself included)! However, unless the harsh truth impacts my life, I now choose to avoid carrying that truth torch these days. If it is absolutely pointless to step up and deliver that dose of reality, I will choose to push the "mind my business" button these days. I don't feel like getting into a fist fight when the person takes the revelation all of the way serious and angrily gets in their feelings. When I was younger, I had a ton of energy and was totally championing to always do the right thing. Nowadays, I think about the extra mental head space that this situation could require. If it is going to exhaust me or take money out of my pocket for some damn reason, I will leave the savages on their own to hash that out. I just know full well to dodge this moron to the best of my ability. How do you handle situations where it appears that a harsh truth needs to be revealed? If applicable, I'd love to hear your unique approach to handling being triggered by hearing the phrase "no offense". Are you a harsh truth crusader? If it doesn't bother you at all, also let me know in the comment section down below. If you have a totally different interpretation of people being triggered by that phrase, by all means, let me know your personal theory on being triggered as well. Now, without further delay, go ahead and check out the question and my response down below: POSED QUESTION: "Why do people get so triggered by "No Offense"? Whenever I say it, I always intend to point out a harsh truth but don't have a kinder way of saying it." MY RESPONSE: "I believe that the “No Offense” cherry on top of a truth pie is triggering since it can be considered as an extra silent dig to the person receiving the harsh truth. It’s a way for you to totally acknowledge that your feedback just stung like a bee. Your style of delivering the harsh truth can make all the difference as well. If the truth is said in jest, it can sometimes soften the blow or anger the receiver. There is always a kinder way to deliver a harsh truth. It requires some consideration but it can be crafted to soften the impact. You should always make an effort to lead the chat in a positive way by throwing in some good feedback beforehand. If you deliver the truth in front of an audience, then it is no longer the truth. It is just you being a bully while trying to get a laugh at the other person’s expense. Be cautious as to how, where, and when you deliver your feedback since that does matter. No matter who the person is or what they have done, you can always find some good talking points. I’m a huge fan of direct people. I’m not fond of indirect, passive people since I don’t want to guess as to what the hell you want. Additionally, they can come across as being weak asf. There needs to be some balance with issuing your input. I chuckled quite heartily at the other commenters who are telling you to mind your business. Technically, they are doing the exact same thing that you are doing. One thing to consider, prior to offering the advice, is the actual objective of the advice? Will offering the truth change how the move going forward? Is it saving a person’s life? Does it shed light of someone attempting to lie and cheat? Where does it lie on your moral compass? Do you believe that you are doing good by revealing the truth? As a young woman, I used to feel compelled to ensure that the truth was heard and revealed. The older I get, I analyze as to what good comes from the truth? If absolutely nothing changes as a result, I have withheld my observations. I’ve also learned that the truth can vary according to the life lens that views it. The wild thing is that revealing a truth can make the messenger look like a bully/jerk if the delivery is not on point. Meanwhile, the messenger just feels like they are merely exposing the hidden truth. I wish you much luck on crafting you delivery of the truth so the message is not lost due to your shoddy approach. #ConstructionTales #VerballyDisastrous" -By Leslie M. Jasper https://www.quora.com/Why-do-people-get-so-triggered-by-No-Offense-Whenever-I-say-it-I-always-intend-to-point-out-a-harsh-truth-but-dont-have-a-kinder-way-of-saying-it?__filter__=all&__nsrc__=notif_page&__sncid__=26201697820&__snid3__=35721348870 I thank you for approaching my advice post and taking the time to digest the discussion with me. Does this phrase trigger the hell out of you? If not triggered, are you amused by the folks who are triggered? As I always ask, let me know if you either like or dislike my advice? Don't forget to explain exactly as to your position so that I may gain an understanding. I appreciate different perspectives on these topics. I found out that The #VerballyDisastrous Podcast is #58 on the list of a top 100 of career minded & working women podcasts on Feedspot.com. I have the link to this top 100 list up above at the top of this blog post. I'm also sharing my latest (8) podcast episodes that are listed down below from The Verbally Disastrous Podcast, via links for Spotify & YouTube down below. If you are into reading on a Kindle, check out my newest short story release that belongs to my Construction Tales-Told By A Woman Kindle Vella Library short story series on Amazon down below. This new short story #11 is entitled, "Juggling Motherhood & Working With The Tools". This short story covers my life as a widowed, single mother in the era when I juggled both motherhood and my career as a journeywoman electrician. The previous short story is #10 is entitled, "Early Life Lessons & Characters To Meet As An Apprentice". If anyone has read any of my other previous short stories, by all means, let me know what you think? Check out the links for my book #ConstructionTales down below. I'm sharing with you some advice posts while juggling my work duties. Now, go carry on with your Thursday now that we have taken a moment to reflect on this Quora question together. Have yourself a great morning/afternoon/evening on your side of the globe and a restful or productive day!